social media comparison: dangerous / motivational

2018, lifestyle, photography, student

Hi there!

I feel like everywhere I look at the moment, people are talking about how social media is such a ‘toxic environment’ – influences are only posting the best parts of their lives, teenage girls think they’re fat and nobody is as happy as they say they are.

But is that really the case? Is social media as awful as everyone says?

Short answer, no I don’t think it is. Yes, in some respects, social media invites you to compare your life to what everyone else is posting about their lives, but does comparison necessarily have to be a bad thing?

Disclaimer: if social media has a negative influence on your mental health and happiness, obviously it’s not good – I can only talk about my experiences with social media and it’s different for everyone so take my words with a little pinch of salt.

For one, not everyone is scrolling through Instagram analysing how every post they see illustrates why their lives are rubbish – I scroll past a photo of an influencer who’s bought some new furniture and I think ‘oooh that’s lovely!’, I’m not thinking about how my life is awful because I can’t have what they have. Does making this example about furniture make me seem really old? I don’t even know anymore.

For two, people are capable of going through social media and seeing people they admire and not comparing themselves (whether that be their body or clothes) to what they see. There’s a lot of talk, particularly with women and teenagers, about how people only ever compare themselves to others. In some cases, this is true (obviously) but in other cases, is it not just admiring someone who looks good? I follow a fair few fitness Instagrams and yes, I’d give anything to look like they do, I’m mostly just admiring how exercise has worked for them and it inspires me more than anything else.

(For the most part, on my really low days it can be depressing but those are the days I know I have to step away or look at something else)

Whether it be body image, interior design or career, social media can be an easy source of comparison but I’ve found in more cases than not, that comparison motivates people to be on the level they want to be – to work out harder, to work as hard as they can for that promotion, to be more like the people that they follow online.

In some respects, I think for us to assume that all anyone does online if negatively compare themselves to other is just that – negative, completely dismissive of how complex people are and we’re all capable of using and reacting to social media in different ways.

Obviously this is all very personal to me – as my mum likes to remind me, I’m a very competitive person so I’m often comparing myself to others and whilst it can bring me down and dishearten me, often it inspires me to be better, to be the best I can be. Sometimes it’s as petty as being able to prove to the people I went to school with that ‘media isn’t easy’ and I can and will be successful. Sure, that’s probably not the most ideal mindset but if it inspires me to work as hard as I can is it that bad?

I predominantly follow people from school to keep up with what they’re doing and watch them flourish in their own fields, because they’re so different to mine. Just to clarify – I’m not that badly competitive.

Comparison can be an awful thing and in some instances it is dangerous, social media can be an awful platform for that. But depending on who you are, how you use social media, how you react to other people, who you follow, what content you engage with and what they post, it doesn’t have to be.

For me, I find social media can be a useful tool when I’m feeling low – it helps me stop analysing my own life for a minute. It brings me out of my own head and into someone else’s world for a little bit – it’s a distraction as much as it is a motivational comparison.

But then that is just me – what do you think? Do you use social media for a particular purpose and do you find that has an impact on you?

Thank you for reading,

Sophie xx

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April Mini Goals

2018, lifestyle, photography, student, travel

Hello!

I think I’ve written about this before, but I like checking in on my goals – I know I’ll do a Resolutions check in around June and right now, today I am going review my March mini goals and set some goals for April. I also want to have a little chat about whether these goals are useful. Let’s do that.

MARCH GOALS + REVIEW:

  1. Focus on FMP: I did do this and get a fair bit done, I’m way more on track than I was at the beginning of March but I’m not sure if it’s because I set it as a goal or because it’s due in like a month (internal screaming) but without over-analysing, I’ve organised a bunch of stuff, I have more of a personal image of what I want the final project to look like now and I’ve done two of three interviews I have booked. The next step is making a much more detailed plan to finish the project by the end of this month (external screaming).
  2. Blog more regularlyI did this! I uploaded 5 blog posts in March – my goals post, a graduation post, an outfit post, a NY photography post and a NY trip post! YouTube also went really well for me this month and I made some videos I’m really proud of.
  3. Three more instagram theme colours: Blew this one out of the water – I finished the three themes I wanted to (it was green, orange and grey) then also did a purple row and a blue row before the month was out, then two photos into a row of NY photos because I finally sorted them out. I’m very pleased with myself.
  4. Cook more: This was a mixed bag because I wasn’t home a lot but when I was home I tried my best. I’m not leaving Southampton at all in April (I don’t think) so hopefully going to eat more healthily and enjoy cooking more this month.
  5. Apply for three jobs: It may have been in the last two hours of March 31st but I did it! I applied for a six week placement which would be really useful for me and two full time jobs. I’m not sure how successful I’ll be but excited to see what comes from them.

APRIL MINI GOALS:

  1. Post on Instagram 5 times a week (or equivalent): I smashed doing three themes so if I’m on top of it, 5 times a week should be pretty manageable! There are four full weeks in April so that will be 20 posts total – will have to see!
  2. Watch more films: I want to go to the cinema more – I love films and I want to see more. I know I’m going to see Marvel Avenger’s Infinity War at the end of the month but I’d like to go to at least one more film before that. I know two cinema trips in a month doesn’t seem like a lot (or does it?) but we’re going for realistic goals here.
  3. Book a holiday: For Lucas’s birthday in January I told him I would take him to Paris in the summer and I have not booked this trip. This is partially because he needs to get a passport before we go and I don’t want to book it and him not be able to go because that ruins the entire point, but I want to book it this month!
  4. Finish my FMP: This is going to have to happen regardless of whether or not this is a goal, but I’m going to make a very specific tick list like a step by step guide to finishing my FMP. Ugh, I’m anxious just thinking about it.
  5. Apply for three more jobs: Especially with my FMP being due right at the beginning of next month, I need to really knuckle down and actually do something about my career and the future so I think three more jobs this month is a good idea.

Content is not a priority this month, but I’m hoping to continue as ‘normal’ (aiming for one blog post a week and two YouTube videos) however I don’t manage that most weeks, the point is that I won’t actually beat myself up about it. Will this happen? Probably not because I put a lot of pressure on myself but I’m trying not to and that’s the main thing.

I love having goals – I love having a focus and a deadline and I think this will work well for me in the long run, particularly in May where I won’t have uni work and I can make goals I’m more passionate about. I don’t know if anyone else enjoys these posts – they’re very personal for me but I know I love having a nosy of other peoples goals and resolutions posts so maybe someone else wants to have a nosy at mine!

I hope you all had a great March – how are we already a quarter of the way through 2018?! Either way, hopefully Spring will have sprung soon and I can share some gorgeous sunny pictures on Instagram! My feed is currently full of photos from my trip to New York at the end of last month so if you want to have a look at that my socials are always linked below!

Thank you for reading,

Sophie xx

 

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is blogging about social media? | creative crisis #1

2017, lifestyle, photography, student

Hello!

I’ve decided to start a new series called ‘creativity crisis’ because I’m a very insecure person and I have a lot of thoughts about ‘success’ and things that that I notice – I don’t want to say they ‘bother’ me but it’s just observations I’ve made and I want to ramble and talk about it, get some feedback, see what other people think.

So today’s topic – is blogging more about being a good writer or being good at social media promotion and networking?

I follow a lot of people from the blogging community on social media – Twitter, Instagram, Facebook pages, even some bloggers on Snapchat but sometimes, to me, it feels like people put more thought into scheduling and promoting content on Twitter than writing blog posts.

I feel like I should disclaim at this point that obviously this isn’t directed at anyone in particular – anyone who goes to the effort of setting up and promoting their blog to that extreme is not to be criticised, I’m just questioning the importance of the content of the blog when social media seems to be the only way to make content successful.

But with that in mind, there are some events that I’ve been to and written posts about and I’ve read blog posts from other people who attended the same event and it’s a carbon copy of the press release – I spend so much time making sure my blog posts are nothing like the press release, making them more blog-chatty and more engaging for anyone who reads but these people have tens of thousands of followers and I’ve read the exact same post on three different blogs… but they have a social media following.

The blogging community is one that I’m not sure I understand anymore – blogging used to be considered a very ‘mumsy’ thing to do, mums exchanging baby tips on forums and writing diary like entries, hence the original of the word ‘web log’; blogging used to be a diary but to me it seems most successful bloggers are now doing brand deals for tweets and instagram pictures.

I don’t want to seem like I’m saying ‘all bloggers are bad’ or ‘the blogging world is corrupt’ – I’m just someone who’s very passionate about writing and I don’t know if it’s the writers that are getting attention in what is almost a ‘new old-fashioned’ platform, because god knows that everyone would rather look at pictures or a video than actually read.

But I am very grateful that you are reading – I don’t often delve into second person or address your directly but I really do love blogging, being able to just write and ramble then sculpt my ideas into these little time capsules to read back when I’m old makes me happy. And maybe I don’t have the social media following to make my blog ‘blow up’, and maybe I ‘don’t use social media properly’ to ‘properly promote myself’ but I post what I want and I’m happy with. I’ll save the social media campaigns for another day.

Thank you for reading,

Sophie xx

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What my links mean!

2016

Hello!

I put my links at the end of every blog post I write but I’ve never really talked about them or promoted them in any other way so I thought I’d talk you through them and explain in a bit more detail, in case you want to follow me anywhere else!

Facebook: I set up my Facebook page earlier this year as a communal place where I can post everything I’m making all over the internet in one place – blog posts I’m writing over all my many blogs that I run, YouTube videos I make, things I’ve done on News Day, things I’ve made with other people – everything. It’s going to get busier and busier as the end of this year and the beginning of next year approaches!

YouTubeI make YouTube videos! If you’re new, hello that’s new information, if you’re not new – I’ve actually been making videos longer than I’ve been blogger but I find blogging a lot easier than YouTube so I have done a lot more of it. My channel is nearly three years old now and in the New Year, I’m going back to weekly content. I’ve been jotting down loads of ideas and I don’t know if I can wait two more months to be creative again I’m so excited. I have a schedule. An actual schedule!

TwitterI tweet a lot. Like a lot of things, most of my thoughts are tweeted. That’s not always a good thing but I tweet a lot so it’s worth mentioning.

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I have a lot of twitter accounts that I run – @SophieALuckett is my oldest account for generic thoughts and things. @sophie_luckett is my ‘professional’ twitter where all of my blog posts and stuff go. @hamwicproduces is a twitter I set up for the ‘production company’ that my friends and I were going to set up but I feel like I’m the only one that cares so there’s nothing on it. @thestudentseat is the twitter for the student blog I’ve set up! All the links to blog posts that are written for The Student Seat and for networking a little bit – I’m trying to make that blog a bit more business like? Penultimate twitter – @sophintheclouds is essentially an extention of SophieALuckett where I don’t limit myself with what I want to tweet – it’s a lot of tweeting shit. The things I restrain and don’t post on SophieALuckett, go on sophintheclouds. I don’t even recommend following about it.

I shall talk about SSUJournalism in a little bit!

Instagram: I’m really into Instagram right now – I just like pretending I’m more indie tumblr hipster than I actually am but I really love my Instagram and I love posting on there quite a lot recently. Pictures are fun!

Snapchat: @SophieALuckett – I snapchat a lot I’m obsessed with snapchat. It’s usually just my flatmate and boyfriend doing stupid things and a lot of pretentious selfies. Love it.

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Uni blogI set up this blog last year to document what I was doing at university from an educational point of view, whilst this blog is more for what I do in my personal life. I’ve just started using it again so if you want to have a look at what I’ve been doing at uni in the past couple of weeks go have a look!

The Student Seat: The new blog I set up for students and student experiences! You can read more about what this blog is about and what it’s for in the About section of the blog but I always link it here so you can have a look if you’re interested! I love running this blog and writing for it because I love student life and working with other contributors.

And for this week only, SSU Journalism! As part of News Days this week, I’m the Social Media Assistant Producer so I’ll be putting up a bunch of content over the Facebook page and the Twitter page until next Wednesday where my privileges will be revoked and I’ll just be a news journalist again.

I hope you feel a bit more informed about my links and where else I live on the internet! I’m feeling very motivated to make content right now.

Thank you for reading,

Sophie xx

 

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Snapchat: @SophieALuckett
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The Student Seat: https://thestudentseat.wordpress.com/